Do you Believe in the Law of Attraction? Stop!

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Ever since the movie The Secrete went mainstream, people started debating about whether the Law of Attraction really works or not.

I thought it was a fascinating movie that had a good intention, but it left out crucial elements that are necessary for the Law of Attraction to actually work.

The Law of Attraction simply states that if you focus on something (long enough) you will get it. Whether it be money, power, fame, the Law of Attraction will provide it for you.

I’ve been behind the scenes of the Personal Development industry, and when you’re behind the scenes of any industry, you begin to see a whole other side of things.

The Law of Attraction was packaged up nicely and presented to the public in a way that had them believe that the concept is so simple and required no work what so ever.

Now, do you really believe that you can sit on a couch, eat pizza, focus on pictures you cut out from Forbes magazine, and attract them in your life?

I will never say it’s impossible, but c’mon.

Newtons Third Law, the Law of Action. If you have no action, you have no reaction.

If the golf club doesn’t hit the golf ball, the ball isn’t going anywhere. No matter how hard you attract a hole in one.

The Law of Attraction works

There were several examples from my personal life that I use to explain the success I had with the Law of Attraction. I use to work for an amazing company called The Mike Ferry Organization where I would sell contracts for their coaching programs over the phone. I believed in their services 100% which is why I became so good at selling it. After learning about the Law of Attraction, I decided to take it out for a test run.

I was at the mall on day and saw these amazing Prada sunglasses. I’not one to usually binge on sunglasses since I lose them so easily, but hey, they were pretty sweet. So I found a picture, printed it out and started focusing on those glasses every single day for about 1 month. Now I didn’t just focus on it and hoped for it to happen, I was focusing on it, got excited and inspired every single day and took action by selling more contracts. That month turned out to be one of my better months because I made well over what I expected.

Everything I focused on wouldn’t have come true, if it wasn’t for me taking action on it. No action, no reaction. 

What’s your take on the Law of Attraction?

65 Responses to Do you Believe in the Law of Attraction? Stop!

  1. Marco Ayuso February 24, 2009 at 7:12 pm #

    Great post AJ, although I parcially agree with you. It’s definitely much more than just thinking and visualizing.
    The thing is that when you really start to have conscious thoughts about what you want to create or attract, you literally change (I mean physically) and as a consequence of these change (thoughts), you start to have a new belief system, which determines a new attitude, which determines new actions, which give you different results(a.k.a what you wanted to create or attract)

    • AJ Kumar February 24, 2009 at 8:26 pm #

      Oh I totally agree with you and did write that the missing link is taking action. What you wrote is very well put :) !!

    • Ace February 25, 2009 at 2:34 pm #

      Well put Marco. I will actually add that its important to write it down, your goals – that which one wants to attract.

      • AJ Kumar February 25, 2009 at 3:28 pm #

        Yes, writing your goals and is the start and looking at them every day. This will keep your focus. It’s like when you drive a car and you’re staring the to the right, you’re call will drift toward that direction too.

  2. Balky February 25, 2009 at 12:57 am #

    I wonder if you ever went back and purchased the Pradas. I bet they are the ones in your portrait. I digress. Great post because I feel you touched base on what is really essential, ACTION. It’s one thing to believe and get motivated, but another to turn that motivation into ACTION. The principles to life never cease in relevance. Work smart, put in your honest effort and you shall reap your rewards. No shortcuts. Good on you AJ.

    On another note, they should do some study/survey or something with the subscribers to the secret and their achievements..

    • AJ Kumar February 25, 2009 at 1:16 am #

      Thanks Balky! I actually did purchase those pradas $350. I ended up giving them to my brother not too long after. Sunglasses are my weakness :)

  3. Harnish Goradia February 25, 2009 at 3:41 pm #

    Good Post! Well said. Without action there cannot be any reaction.

    • AJ Kumar February 26, 2009 at 1:50 am #

      Thanks Harnish. It’s too bad most people get sold on the do nothing factor.

  4. Ian Cleary February 25, 2009 at 3:56 pm #

    Rather than the law of attraction is just really a matter of focus. You focus on the things you really want. With this focus you put in the in actions required to meet this goal so you are more likely to achieve it. Without the focus you don’t have a chance.

    • AJ Kumar February 26, 2009 at 1:52 am #

      It’s like getting a magnifying glass and trying to burn a piece of paper as a kid. Nothing happens unless you get the focus on the paper juuuuuussst right.

  5. Rocksta February 27, 2009 at 4:47 pm #

    BUT WHO SAYS YOU WILL SIT ON THE COUCH?!
    Law of Attraction will inspire you, give you an idea.
    Universe inspired you to sell more contracts.

    And yes, it DOES work that way: focus and eventually everything will fall into place, including delivering you an idea how to obtain something you wish for.

    Now you pissed me off with that article :P

    • AJ Kumar February 28, 2009 at 9:55 am #

      I never said the law of attraction doesn’t work. I simply said that you need to take action. It doesn’t have to be a couch. Rocksta, you can focus on getting a Ferrari all day long for 50 years, but aren’t going to get it by doing nothing at home. You will definitely SEE a lot of Ferrari’s mainly because your focusing on them. The LOA is a viewed in the wrong way for many people, which is why I wrote this article. So no need to be pissed because I never said it doesn’t work, it just needs action.

      Like you said, you can inspired with ideas etc. Yes you can, but you must take action with those ideas :)

  6. Rocksta February 27, 2009 at 4:48 pm #

    Besides, every action you take from a perspective of lack will NOT be right one.

    • AJ Kumar February 28, 2009 at 9:55 am #

      Of course not! Fail forward fast. Learn from mistakes.

  7. Jaky Astik March 3, 2009 at 8:00 am #

    Tell you what! I am using law of attraction for everything now. And if someone says that it’s not working, he’s a fake.

    I use it even for getting green signal at the traffic lights. Lol. I am in love with it now.

    • AJ Kumar March 3, 2009 at 10:18 am #

      hahaha! if it works for why change it right ;) . I never said it doesn’t work, just said you need to add ACTION.

      All green lights …man I want drive everywhere with you!

  8. Chandan March 5, 2009 at 2:04 pm #

    Hey Aj,

    I just stumbled upon your blog and find it to be very interesting. The law of attraction definatley works because I had the same experience in my life. I am a businessman and I had problems importing a particular item from China due to large quantity commitments. I took the picture of that product and put it up on my office table and in my bedroom and saw it everyday and everynight. Then somehow a local store went out of business and I got their entire inventory for less than what it would cost from China. Talk about law of Attraction :)

    • AJ Kumar March 5, 2009 at 3:30 pm #

      Wow…interesting story, thanks for sharing that!

  9. Peter Philter March 8, 2009 at 7:41 am #

    You (Mr. Kumar) are touching something very important here. Almost as if you perceived something most people rather don’t want to think about. But it doesn’t seem “thought through”. The film certainly left out vital facts, and “newtons” third law (the law of reaping) was certainly one of the things that the “experts” seem to have missed, but not in the sense, Mr Kumar, describes above. In fact, if I remember correctly, they do argue that you must manifest your thoughts (emotions) in order for the results of the so called “law of attraction” (Law of development) to be successful. The… “the secret” is playing with forces that could do more damage than a nuclear explosion. It’s very important to keep in mind that all actions require reaping (reaction), and that every single penny acquired by using magic requires far more responsibility that coins acquired through hard work. Using the so called for own benefit often result in personal disaster. Why? Because we, most often than not, can’t handle the responsibility. But apply the Law to promote other peoples’ development, and you will acquire wealth that can not be measured in money.

    Peter Philter

    • AJ Kumar March 8, 2009 at 11:35 pm #

      Thanks for your input. My explanation above was not completely about the movie The Secret, it was more so what many people consider to be the “magic pill”. For every reaction is obviously caused by an action.

  10. Peter Philter March 8, 2009 at 7:45 am #

    Sorry bout the mis-coding, between “so called” and the capped part the abbr “LOA” wasn’t formatted correctly.

    Regards,
    Peter Philter
    http://mahatmawatcher.blogspot.com

    • AJ Kumar March 9, 2009 at 7:05 pm #

      no worries ! Really puts emphasis on what you wrote ;)

  11. Rain March 9, 2009 at 6:50 pm #

    What is “Neuro Linguistic Programming?”

  12. Mila March 15, 2009 at 1:41 am #

    Well, I just read what you have written and I must say that I believed in this action reaction “thing” before without knowing it is present as a LOA. I do have one question. I applied recently for a scholarship and I am thinking about it everyday, reading everything connected to it, researching about that country, improving my English..but can I do something more?? Because my yearning for this exchange is immense and I truly believe that I could gain a lot for my future career and development.

    • AJ Kumar March 15, 2009 at 10:52 pm #

      Hi Mila,

      You did take action by applying for the scholarship, and like you wrote, reading, studying, researching etc. So with all this action that you are taking, you will get a reaction.

      Just one piece of advice (which are continuing to follow) do not just stop and hope for it to happen, continue doing what you are doing. :)

  13. Jeff March 18, 2009 at 1:26 pm #

    This is a fascinating truth.

    This puzzled me for years!

    Why do people go to casinos?
    Smoke?
    Buy scams?
    Join cult religions that are so whacky?

    Because they WANT what sounds too good to be true!

    Examples:
    All I have to do is bet correctly once and I’ll be rich!
    All I have to do is smoke, and I will be cool!
    All I have to do is buy John Dough’s Millions by Morning System, and I’ll be rich!
    All I have to do is join Obamazorastrianmorobabtisoptimism, and I’ll be loved!

    We all want an easy solution, and sometimes we get them,

    Weedwhippers, I love ‘em, can’t oversell weedwhippers.

    No sir, if you have ever crawled around with clippers, edging the lawn, you know, weedwhippers are the way to go. Faster, neater and easier than clippers!

    Problem is, not every new product is a “weedwhipper” some products are just what you step in while you are on the lawn.

    The “Law of Attraction” in current form, has that color, smell and texture.

    Thanks for a look at that crap for behind the scenes!

    • AJ Kumar March 18, 2009 at 2:01 pm #

      hahah well said! Yes everyone is looking for the “easy” way out, which is why so many trainers/speakers pitch the law of attraction the way they do.

  14. Dave March 29, 2009 at 9:37 pm #

    I think you’re all a bunch of right materialistic twats. “OOOh! Look at me! I wished for some f*cking Prada sunglasses and Jesus miracled a good sales month to me so I could buy them! Oh, la-dee-da and aren’t I the special one? The magic of the universe is at my f*cking beck and call. Prada for everyone!”

    • AJ Kumar March 30, 2009 at 9:09 am #

      Hey Dave,

      Relax man, your acting childish. I didn’t just wish for the pradas or a good sales month and magically get them…I worked by butt of for em.

  15. misanthropope March 30, 2009 at 12:45 am #

    so your law of attraction works in precisely the circumstances where, if it DIDN’T, the effects would still be what you were hoping for?

    the god-botherers will be coming after you for patent infringement, if you’re not careful.

    • AJ Kumar March 30, 2009 at 9:11 am #

      well not exactly, the law of attraction opens up the right doors, but if one doesn’t take action, then nothing will happen.

      Infringement on what? This is all my opinion…

  16. Mani Goel April 29, 2009 at 2:01 am #

    Excellent site with outstanding information

  17. Authority Networker April 30, 2009 at 8:45 am #

    Knowledge of the art of gentle persuasion is key for a business to attract more buyers. This is the concept behind attraction marketing, a new internet network marketing system where you develop ongoing relationships with clients by educating your buyers first and then moving them along the buying path in your communications. Prospects resist selling…the more you sell, the more people resist it. Attraction marketing enables you to bring in customers in a pleasant and streamlined manner. Integrating the attraction marketing formula into your business helps you develop personal relationships with your existing clients and become a person of value, so that they have the underlying feeling of attraction and want to come back for more. The results from using attraction marketing in your network marketing online campaign will be much more favorable than trying to hard-sell everything.

    • AJ Kumar April 30, 2009 at 9:37 pm #

      So what your saying is kind of a residual effect? You don’t make much at first, but as you educate more and more readers, over time you will get more and more clients? I agree with you. And if I’m not mistaken, that’s how most blogs are able to sell their products….don’t you think?

  18. Bolle Ski Goggles June 14, 2009 at 10:02 pm #

    yes I believe in that, but we should always think that expensive material's are not very important hehehe but I love prada's.

  19. Jean Belmares August 13, 2009 at 12:48 pm #

    I don't know for sure if I'm repeating what's already been said here, or simply too late but I think the law of attration is having faith that what you desire for is a possible reachable goal, thus making it worth hoping for and setting as a goal and working toward until you reach it. Put simply: You draw what you want to yourself by moving toward it! :D

  20. AJ Kumar August 13, 2009 at 9:23 pm #

    Yeah, you do move toward it, it's just that most people unfortunately expect something to happen without doing anything about it.

  21. Ski Goggles September 6, 2009 at 4:26 am #

    i do beleive in law of attractive,w hat a great post

  22. AJ Kumar September 7, 2009 at 8:33 pm #

    That's good! Just don't rely on things to happen to you without you actually taking action on something.

  23. Jkraj September 20, 2009 at 6:42 pm #

    Dispresed person are with some disabled ability like ability of taking “actions”. and full of negative thoughts.
    They Some time Can't do bathing eating cleaning there own house etc They start dieing.
    So,word”Action” is Somewhat hard for them.
    word 'Action” only works for them when they have hope and have a positive mind bla bla bla.

    So, Once they get motivated, They start doing action needed. Action comes automatically if someone wants something in real they needed.
    So action and then reaction. They have there goals.

    But Some how I disagree with the NAME of law “law of attraction” Its for above thing and for being flashed in big market for just for profit. The NAME is a confusion.
    Its like they used a wire I already have which they folded here and there and now they telling me its a new wire.(I mean the same related blog etc)
    It should be “Law of focus” or Concentration”All of you learnt it in childhood Teacher said “Concentrate now and you will get good marks in exam.”

    In Spiritual way one can explain same law like:

    GOD giving you a lots of opportunity of everything.Love,Job,Things even death etc he he (You can't see a drop in a rain I believe)Because you are confused what you need.
    So you have to concentrate. It will filter out opportunities that you want and also because you are focus hard enough to get a job etc. It means (After filtering those few rain drops You can see them in slow motion) I believe if a cake is in front of you and you know you can get it you want it, you probably do a action. So no need to mention a action.

    another example,Consider this fantasy example
    I want a Ferrari.
    One day I got an ad in newspaper,It was about “get Ferrari in a cost of ordinary car price.”(limited offer)

    Well,
    If I want Ferrari and concentrated to get it, means chances of getting news(Opportunity) early as possible.
    If I want a car only there are less chances.
    If I don't want a car , I may have skipped that ad,(bad lack)So No chance of getting it(Ferrari).

    So This is how law of attraction works which is actually “law of focus.”

    So,Lots of Unknown Opportunities,
    Concentrate and then Filter them,
    Focus feel them Slow motion
    Believe in Chance,First come First serve and Its all yours.

  24. AJ Kumar October 5, 2009 at 10:43 am #

    Thanks Mani,

    glad you enjoy the info

  25. AJ Kumar October 5, 2009 at 10:45 am #

    hmmm, I like where you are going with that and I couldn't agree with you more. It's true and I believe it becomes more of an obvious then when you think about something, you see it or come across it because its on your mind. Else, like everything, you would of just ignored it.

  26. hayleyCox November 1, 2009 at 12:01 pm #

    I know some really successful people who believe in the Law of Attraction. Go figure.

  27. Law of Attraction Coach January 2, 2010 at 8:47 pm #

    This is true. You need to work hard for something to achieve it. That's why they say that thoughts alone cannot make the law of attraction work. You need to focus on your thoughts. Make it your goal, your passion. Put it into your heart. And work for it. You need to take action to make it work. Btw, This is a great post!

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  31. Lladynski July 14, 2010 at 10:01 am #

    The Secret was based on a book “The Science of Getting Rich” there it is clearly written that the action is necessary to achieve what you want :)

    • AJ Kumar July 28, 2010 at 3:26 pm #

      Too bad most people misinterpreted that very important information

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  39. shaun September 8, 2010 at 12:09 pm #

    Its absolutely true. But the fact is that you have to act and focus on what you want. It’s needed to be understand that law of attraction needs a lot of support and from your side. Now sitting and resting on a couch throughout the day, watching attractive bodies of men/women on TV might attract you but it’s not that it will come running to you just feeling that you too have attractive body. You need to work for it and it shouldn’t be doubted or chore for you to get your dreams into real

  40. Jai Subramanian October 23, 2010 at 12:19 am #

    Hey, good blog!
    Well, it is the same as wishing people is possible in two ways:

    Wishing them the best of their LUCK

    and

    Wishing them the best for all that they do.

    It is always better you choose the second. You don’t go to the exam centre, your luck doesn’t give a damn!

  41. Kate Price October 6, 2011 at 6:04 am #

    Newton’s 3rd Law:
    “To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions.”

    I think the post author meant to refer to the 1st law:
    “Every body persists in its state of being at rest or of moving uniformly straight forward, except insofar as it is compelled to change its state by force impressed.”

    LIFE IS AN OPEN SECRET/THERE ARE NO “SECRETS”: It’s about action, not attraction. My room mate in college LOVED the secret/law of attraction, and she was hell-bent on using it for a difficult chemistry class.  She had affirmations and all kinds of other LOA type things she did. To her credit, she definitely did her best to remain true to whatever they teach in that book and video.Unforunately, she should’ve attracted her ass some actual CHEMISTRY problems. She miserably failed the test and the course. Obviously, the counter-argument people will use is that she obviously DIDN’T attract a good grade bc she failed at some level to remain diligent about the LOA. ”Essential criteria [for a theory to hold scientific/objective weight]The defining characteristic of a scientific theory is that it makes falsifiable or testable predictions. The relevance and specificity of those predictions determine how potentially useful the theory is. A would-be theory that makes no predictions that can be observed is not a useful theory. Predictions not sufficiently specific to be tested are similarly not useful. In both cases, the term “theory” is hardly applicable.”http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_theoryMy point is that the LOA isn’t falsifiable. People make excuses when it doesn’t work out to reduce the cognitive dissonance that contradicting facts necessarily brings up. However, I will definitely say that I have absolutely no problem with someone using this at a spiritual level. I’d just say that you should think twice before hassling yourself with a set of cognitive habits that aren’t based on fact. Don’t over complicate things. If people enthusiastically purport to have a “secret” to life, they have ulterior motives that are usually financial (cults sometimes have sexual motives, to name another type of motive). If you want success, throw your heart and soul into ACTION and don’t let anything stop you.

  42. Abby November 30, 2011 at 8:26 pm #

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    Thanks

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