Comments on: Do You Have a Friend Who is a Loser? Get Rid of Em!

By: bloc goggles

bloc goggles — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:50:40 +0000

great post

By: Dutchy

Dutchy — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 16:40:00 +0000

To many losers on Facebook, good article.

By: AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 01:35:01 +0000

Exactly. I knew a lot of people like that, especially during my high school days Your best bet is to get rid of em!

By: clancy3909

clancy3909 — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 00:24:34 +0000

Losers are adults who stay in there little box and never venture out of it.Yet always rip on people who do.Losers are people who's idea of fun is to drink daily or smoke weed daily because they seem to feel this makes them more interesting.Humm NOT!!!Finally losers are people who just give up inside and out.We only get one like ladies and gents.
Take all the chances you can!!

By: GTkiwi

GTkiwi — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 20:49:32 +0000

Food for thought here AJ…Interesting viewpoints from folks out there.Gathering with positve,like minded people,Is indeed a great way to Grow in all aspects of ones being!
In these chalenging times we find ourselves,Its encouraging to find a little positvity can go a long way!!!…Like attracts like,Success attracts success,Growth attracts growth..
Have a Great day!
GT New Zealand.

By: rebekahslevi

rebekahslevi — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:58:17 +0000

I think I know what you mean….I had a lot of negative things happen to me, but I realize this wasn't about me. The more I have grown as a person, the more positive I become.
When I get around negative people, it really brings me down. The more positive I am, the more I am able to identify people who are positive. Not those in denial but those who are more open to possibilities, appreciate those things in life that are beautiful, don't hang onto bitterness. I believe that forgiving and letting go is important in all this. and I believe that when I am wrong, that I should be “big enough” to ask for forgiveness, and then move on.
I try to remember that God is in control, and that God is love. and God love those whom I may not love, and it includes those whom I may not be comfortable with. They deserve a smile, kindness, and common consideration. Even if they don't feel the way I do. My life and beliefs are not based in who the receiver is(if I show kind & thoughtful behavior, can they perceive my kindness and thoughtfulness?). My life is based in what I know to be true–that God is love and who am I to be unloving to someone I disagree with? God loves them the same as he does me. However, I am at the same time aware that a lot of folks tend to project their own psychological material off on to me. and they do not perceive me for who I am. They only see what they can see, which “ain't” much, since their repertoire of thinking, perceiving, feeling, is so limited.
They alone are responsible for this dilemma they are in. If they live in a closed loop of unending pain, and destructive behavior. If at some point they can think, perceive, or see outside the box they are living in, THEN at some point we all can hope that these perceptions, and stinking thinking they are stuck in, can somehow be interuppted by good, kindness, and knowing that there is love for them.

Hopefully they will one day think something like, “…is it really true that there is love in the universe, and that someone loves me…? Without this type of paradigm shift there little hope of getting out of that closed loop and the stinking thinking that goes along with it.
But it is possible. I did it, and my life will never be the same. Dare to doubt your doubts.
All the best Rebekah

By: AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar — Fri, 29 May 2009 16:03:00 +0000

Hi Paisley,

I appreciate your comment.
The whole 5 billionaires thing..if you look at my last paragraph, then you would realize that I specifically clarify that you that its not about money that classify one as being a loser.

I never said anything wrong about the people that need assistance etc. Look closley at my article and you'll realize that I talk specifically about people who CHOOSE to

* No job (not looking hard enough) - has a job
* No money (lack of motivation to make it) - has money and motivation to make more
* Lazy - he sleeps like 4-5 hours a day, because he spends his time working
* Party all the time (unless it’s related to your job)- he hardly parties for the fun of it, unless he does it with or for clients
* Too much drugs- Not that the public is aware of...
* Too much focus on girls (for guys, mainly 18-25)- he does not waste time searching for girls.
* Willingness to NOT step out of comfort zone-steps out of his comfort zone all the time which makes him grow each day.

Even if people need support...if THEY CAN do something about it, then they would be considered losers, but if they can't obviously they wouldn't.

Look read my entire article...I knew this one would be controversial, so I made sure I dotted my 'i's' and crossed my 't's'

By: Paisley

Paisley — Fri, 29 May 2009 12:03:49 +0000

A person with a strong character will not be negatively influenced by people labeled as 'losers'.

In fact, being exposed to 'losers' should motivate you to live life in a more productive and meaningful way.

People who imagine they can be brought down by 'losers' have a problem and need to get it sorted out.

Anyone with the determination to overcome obstacles and improve life will - regardless of 'losers', 'winners' or anybody else.

Every first world inhabitant should be succesful. For goodness sake, there's a safety net called social security yet there are many 'losers'. This is because it's not all about money. There are social problems people are born into and contribute to their low self-esteem and character. These people need support and assistance even though they live in countries that are wealthy. I won't discard them.

The five billionaires mentioned, must they only be billionaires or must they be decent human beings as well?

Anyone who actually believes their plans are threatened or negatively influenced by having contact with 'losers' needs help. That is, if any of the 'winners' will give you the time of day.

By: AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar — Mon, 25 May 2009 18:29:14 +0000

Well, I would never go to the extreme of saying just because one is goth, you should get rid of them. It's not about that at all…

By: David Hardy

David Hardy — Mon, 18 May 2009 15:55:52 +0000

Here’s my short take on a couple of points…

What is a loser? A loser is a person who does not know where they are going…they do not have goals. Would you get in your car and start driving without a destination? Then why would you live your life that way?

What is a successful person? The successful person knows where they are going. That is what having goals is all about. You have goals, take action every day to move in that direction, you are successful. Success is not the destination; it is taking action everyday toward your goals.

One thing about Mother Teresa. She was one of the richest women in the world!! Say what?? Not rich like we in America think of it, but she was. When it came to money, all she had to do was ask and she had all she needed. She chose to use the money in her charity instead of on herself.

And just like Mother Teresa, all we have to do is ask, and it shall be given. So ask, and set your goal and work steadily toward it and it will become a reality.

Michele, reading your post reminded me of myself. And I realized the longer the list of reasons got, the more they started looking like excuses. That is my experience.

Forget the past and all the reasons why your life is the way it is now. Look forward, decide what you want. Take a step, then take another one.

Well, my post did not turn out to be so short, but it was heartfelt. Thank you.