Comments on: Introvert to Extrovert : 4 Ways to Take Control of Your Shyness http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/ The fastest way to learn persuasive communication. Persuasive.net, by AJ Kumar, is a blog about persuasive communication, personal development, NLP, and sales skills Mon, 08 Mar 2010 04:44:36 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jack Sparrow http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-40262 Jack Sparrow Sun, 27 Dec 2009 08:19:47 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-40262 The best way to change from introvert to extrovert is to try to conquer your fear . to conquer you need to make an effort and pray for the grace to help u come out of this .. The best way to change from introvert to extrovert is to try to conquer your fear . to conquer you need to make an effort and pray for the grace to help u come out of this ..

]]> By: MarkShepard http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39367 MarkShepard Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:54:44 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39367 Thanks Janice! I appreciate your thoughtful response. In my training we determine an introvert Vs. an extrovert by this question. Do you recharge your batteries alone or with just 1 other person? Introvert. Do you recharge your batteries in a group? Extrovert.<br><br>Let's just say I truly enjoy spending time alone! But once I'm all charged up, I'm ready to go out and be with other people.<br><br>Mark Thanks Janice! I appreciate your thoughtful response. In my training we determine an introvert Vs. an extrovert by this question. Do you recharge your batteries alone or with just 1 other person? Introvert. Do you recharge your batteries in a group? Extrovert.

Let's just say I truly enjoy spending time alone! But once I'm all charged up, I'm ready to go out and be with other people.

Mark

]]> By: janicepence http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39365 janicepence Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:43:27 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39365 I love this article!! I am an Introvert – very introverted and was born into a family of Extroverts. It seemed that no one understood the way I processed information – after all that is the biggest difference between introverts and extroverts. Introverts process by thinking, extroverts process by talking.<br><br>Both of my children are extroverts, one being is very extroverted. Talk about turning the tables on me. I am trying to learn to just listen to them without becoming overwhelmed with all of the talking. <br><br>Great article – I loved the topic. I found great resources on the <a href="http://www.knowyourtype.com" rel="nofollow">Myers Briggs</a> definitions of <a href="http://www.knowyourtype.com/extraversion.html" rel="nofollow">Extroversion</a> and <a href="http://www.knowyourtype.com/introversion.html" rel="nofollow">Introversion</a> – they sum up the information for those in the dark. I love this article!! I am an Introvert – very introverted and was born into a family of Extroverts. It seemed that no one understood the way I processed information – after all that is the biggest difference between introverts and extroverts. Introverts process by thinking, extroverts process by talking.

Both of my children are extroverts, one being is very extroverted. Talk about turning the tables on me. I am trying to learn to just listen to them without becoming overwhelmed with all of the talking.

Great article – I loved the topic. I found great resources on the Myers Briggs definitions of Extroversion and Introversion – they sum up the information for those in the dark.

]]> By: Mark Shepard http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39255 Mark Shepard Sat, 11 Jul 2009 18:28:14 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39255 Thanks BJ for your comments. As far as being sexist goes, please understand that in 90% of the work I do with 1:1 clients who are men the issue of "approach anxiety" comes up. I originally wrote the article for my blog at <a href="http://shyguyhelp.com" rel="nofollow">http://shyguyhelp.com</a> . The women that I've mentioned this issue to (which is almost a universal problem for shy guys) typically look at me like I'm crazy. Like you they can't imagine it! They don't seem to be able to even comprehend it. So if the article starts with that issue it's because it is a huge issue. All the other points may work for both sexes but including an issue that is particularly painful for men is not sexist. Just as an article that included the pain women feel at being judged for their looks would not be sexist.<br><br>Thanks again for your excellent points.<br>Mark Thanks BJ for your comments. As far as being sexist goes, please understand that in 90% of the work I do with 1:1 clients who are men the issue of “approach anxiety” comes up. I originally wrote the article for my blog at http://shyguyhelp.com . The women that I've mentioned this issue to (which is almost a universal problem for shy guys) typically look at me like I'm crazy. Like you they can't imagine it! They don't seem to be able to even comprehend it. So if the article starts with that issue it's because it is a huge issue. All the other points may work for both sexes but including an issue that is particularly painful for men is not sexist. Just as an article that included the pain women feel at being judged for their looks would not be sexist.

Thanks again for your excellent points.
Mark

]]> By: bj brown http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39254 bj brown Fri, 10 Jul 2009 19:55:47 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39254 Always remember that Introversion is NOT shyness. Introversion is a measurable neurological trait that we see from birth. However, Mark is correct, expressing our Introversion via debilitating shyness is a choice that we often made as children. We can elect to do something differently.<br><br>Also, asking Extraverted friends is indeed useless. We Introverts simply don't have the neurological wiring to do it like they do. That's why so much training designed by (and therefore for) Extraverts is not very useful to us. Overcoming shyness is not about becoming an Extravert, it's about moving through the world comfortably as an Introvert. If you want to learn how to do it, find Introverts who do it well and emulate them. Their way of being in the external world will work much better for you than trying to imitate a used car salesman or a narscistic rock star. <br><br>By the way Mark, you might consider keeping your images a bit less sexist - I personally can't imagine picking up women as a reason to become less shy and I suspect neither can Shelley. Always remember that Introversion is NOT shyness. Introversion is a measurable neurological trait that we see from birth. However, Mark is correct, expressing our Introversion via debilitating shyness is a choice that we often made as children. We can elect to do something differently.

Also, asking Extraverted friends is indeed useless. We Introverts simply don't have the neurological wiring to do it like they do. That's why so much training designed by (and therefore for) Extraverts is not very useful to us. Overcoming shyness is not about becoming an Extravert, it's about moving through the world comfortably as an Introvert. If you want to learn how to do it, find Introverts who do it well and emulate them. Their way of being in the external world will work much better for you than trying to imitate a used car salesman or a narscistic rock star.

By the way Mark, you might consider keeping your images a bit less sexist – I personally can't imagine picking up women as a reason to become less shy and I suspect neither can Shelley.

]]> By: AJ Kumar http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39235 AJ Kumar Wed, 08 Jul 2009 05:08:13 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39235 haha I agree. Everyone has problems, but it is when you pin point it exactly and break it down, you can fix it with the proper solution. haha I agree. Everyone has problems, but it is when you pin point it exactly and break it down, you can fix it with the proper solution.

]]> By: Deline http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39233 Deline Wed, 08 Jul 2009 01:54:16 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39233 Great article on this topic. I like the concept of dissecting what someone does that inhibits them from doing what they want, and then coming up with a way to jam that process from happening.<br><br>D Great article on this topic. I like the concept of dissecting what someone does that inhibits them from doing what they want, and then coming up with a way to jam that process from happening.

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]]> By: Mark Shepard http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39226 Mark Shepard Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:12:20 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39226 Hi Shelley, I appreciate your comment. My experience with asking extroverted friends for help was that they 1. didn't have a clue about how to help me and 2. it was too easy to be lazy about reaching out to other people because my extroverted friends were just so good at it. I just stayed in the background.<br><br>If we can't break the shyness program on our own then it's time to find a competent NLP practitioner, NOT a talk therapist.<br><br>Mark Shepard, NLPT<br><a href="http://ModernJedi.com" rel="nofollow">http://ModernJedi.com</a> Hi Shelley, I appreciate your comment. My experience with asking extroverted friends for help was that they 1. didn't have a clue about how to help me and 2. it was too easy to be lazy about reaching out to other people because my extroverted friends were just so good at it. I just stayed in the background.

If we can't break the shyness program on our own then it's time to find a competent NLP practitioner, NOT a talk therapist.

Mark Shepard, NLPT
http://ModernJedi.com

]]> By: shelleydelayne http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39206 shelleydelayne Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:32:12 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39206 Hi, AJ!<br><br>Oh, absolutely, change has to come from within! Sorry, I should have been more clear: the advice in this article is absolutely excellent and such a change is absolutely achievable! I just think that having some reference for what you're trying to change your behavior TO is a necessary part of the equation and deserved a mention. <br><br>:) Hi, AJ!

Oh, absolutely, change has to come from within! Sorry, I should have been more clear: the advice in this article is absolutely excellent and such a change is absolutely achievable! I just think that having some reference for what you're trying to change your behavior TO is a necessary part of the equation and deserved a mention.

:)

]]> By: AJ Kumar http://www.persuasive.net/introvert-to-extrovert-4-ways-to-take-control-of-your-shyness/comment-page-1/#comment-39205 AJ Kumar Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:11:32 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2204#comment-39205 Hi Shelley,<br><br>I too was an introvert for a majority of my life. I can understand that having extroverted friends help, but in order to really make a long lasting change, it needs to be done with yourself. So your, it definitely plays a role, but the real changes comes from yourself.<br><br>I was able to change myself from shy to expressive almost instantly because I was just so sick and tired of being that way. I made the decision and stuck by it. I try to place myself in uncomfortable situations as often as possible now. Hi Shelley,

I too was an introvert for a majority of my life. I can understand that having extroverted friends help, but in order to really make a long lasting change, it needs to be done with yourself. So your, it definitely plays a role, but the real changes comes from yourself.

I was able to change myself from shy to expressive almost instantly because I was just so sick and tired of being that way. I made the decision and stuck by it. I try to place myself in uncomfortable situations as often as possible now.

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