Comments on: The Fear of Rejection Explained http://www.persuasive.net/the-fear-of-rejection-explained/ The fastest way to learn persuasive communication. Persuasive.net, by AJ Kumar, is a blog about persuasive communication, personal development, NLP, and sales skills Mon, 08 Mar 2010 04:44:36 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: ishina http://www.persuasive.net/the-fear-of-rejection-explained/comment-page-1/#comment-40041 ishina Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:01:27 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2670#comment-40041 Hi Tyler!<br><br>I would agree that is of use to (outwardly) act as a follower when you try to initially learn from experts about a new field of knowledge. However, it is hard to change your relationship from being a Follower to an Aware communicator thereafter - relationships are often enough forged during the first exposures.<br><br>Your perspective is valid all the time - but it has no inherent need to be true. It is your best knowledge at that time of point. If you are willing to learn - communicate it! Say what you think and proactively add the caveat that you are aware that you might be wrong. At this point, people usually are more than willing to share their knowledge with you, as they have a feeling that they can teach you :)<br><br>From my experience, I have always felt good about teaching people thing I am knowledgeable about, if they contacted me without an inherent challenge permeating their approach.<br><br>In love for life,<br>Simon Hi Tyler!

I would agree that is of use to (outwardly) act as a follower when you try to initially learn from experts about a new field of knowledge. However, it is hard to change your relationship from being a Follower to an Aware communicator thereafter – relationships are often enough forged during the first exposures.

Your perspective is valid all the time – but it has no inherent need to be true. It is your best knowledge at that time of point. If you are willing to learn – communicate it! Say what you think and proactively add the caveat that you are aware that you might be wrong. At this point, people usually are more than willing to share their knowledge with you, as they have a feeling that they can teach you :)

From my experience, I have always felt good about teaching people thing I am knowledgeable about, if they contacted me without an inherent challenge permeating their approach.

In love for life,
Simon

]]> By: Tyler Willis http://www.persuasive.net/the-fear-of-rejection-explained/comment-page-1/#comment-40027 Tyler Willis Thu, 08 Oct 2009 19:08:20 +0000 http://www.persuasive.net/?p=2670#comment-40027 Interesting post, IMO there are some cases when acting publicly as "The Follower" is advisable, especially when you are just learning an industry and working for people who are very good, however, it also makes sense to privately explore your opinions and test their validity.<br><br>Awhile back I started writing a journal of decisions made in my projects and I would try to review it periodically -- once I discovered that more often than not, discussion about my concern would have added something to the final situation, I moved from being a Follower to being Aware.<br><br>The journal was very helpful in helping me personally gauge when I'd reached enough of an expertise in my field to offer good viewpoints. Interesting post, IMO there are some cases when acting publicly as “The Follower” is advisable, especially when you are just learning an industry and working for people who are very good, however, it also makes sense to privately explore your opinions and test their validity.

Awhile back I started writing a journal of decisions made in my projects and I would try to review it periodically — once I discovered that more often than not, discussion about my concern would have added something to the final situation, I moved from being a Follower to being Aware.

The journal was very helpful in helping me personally gauge when I'd reached enough of an expertise in my field to offer good viewpoints.

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